This step father stuff is hard work....

I wouldn't ever say that I was scared about the prospect of becoming the step-father to 3 kids, I don't remember every hesitating on it at all. I don't know that I fully grasped the daunting task of being there for them, although I could claim the bar wasn't set very high for me by the person before me. That said, once I got into the mix, I probably made a lot of mistakes, with the boys especially.

13 years later, I got to walk Sarah down the aisle, I am tops on the Papa list, and I am still trying to figure all this out, I have come to the conclusion that I will still be learning how to do this till the end. Specially with what Tami has been going thru, I feel like I should be stepping up even more, but I am never really sure where and when, and that boat never stops to tell me before sailing on by. I know I have it in me, me and Sarah have never been closer, we talk like father and daughter, sometimes after hanging out with her I just shake my head because I can't believe, and would have never believed I could have built such a good relationship with her.

The boys continue to allude me, I know what I need to do, but its kinda like when you change jobs, or move to a new town, and you tell someone you will call. Then time passes, and you tell yourself you will call in a week, then it becomes a month, then a year, and so on. It just keeps getting harder to call as time goes. That is sorta where I am at now. The bad thing is they probably need me to be there more than every, and I just need to knuckle down and do it. But then I procrastinate. I'm good at that, ask Tami.

The longer I wait, the tougher it gets, the more factors that become involved. It's not just them anymore, it's their spouses and kids, its things going on with them aside from just what we have going on now. If there is one thing I am better at than procrastinating, it's digging myself a hole to climb out of.

Here I go, starting to climb...